Relationships

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By Torianna Thomas

 

To be in a real and healthy relationship, especially in high school, takes a certain level of maturity that not everyone has. This does not apply to all of them, but it seems like a lot of relationships in this generation are just for the attention of others, social media, or sex. The purpose of a relationship is for two people to build each other up and grow as people. This can’t happen if people are focused on the wrong things.

 

From observation, a lot of high school relationships don’t last very long for different reasons. It’s one thing if it doesn’t last because a couple isn’t compatible but a lot of times, it consists of a lack of communication and understanding. To really be on the same page as far as communication and understanding, beliefs and values should be discussed before commitment happens. This would determine if they should actually be in a relationship together. Loyalty is also a common probably amongst teenagers. They get bored too quickly and want to add excitement in their life but don’t think about how that could hurt the other person. If a person was to lose interest, they should just communicate that instead of playing with someone’s emotions.

 

A major problem in this generation is sex. People seem to have sex so often in relationships that it’s expected. So, if there are a few people that want to remain abstinent, they are often frowned upon or criticized for being “different”. Sometimes, teenagers feel pressured to have sex so their significant other won’t leave them without realizing what that’s doing to them. If you have to have sex to make someone stay in your life, they don’t really love you. Relationships that are based off of just sex are unhealthy because those types of couples would never know if they are actually attracted to a person or if they just want them physically.

 

All in all, it takes a mature mindset and commitment to have a real and genuine relationship. People should want to be in a relationship but only for the right reasons. People should want someone to help mold them into better people, not someone for cute pictures and sex. Only invest your time into someone who truly loves and cares about you.